You might have noticed our post last week about our Paramedic trainer, Rachel, and the sponsored walk she organised every year, in memory of her brother. It all started at his funeral when a friend of his announced that he wanted to do a sponsored walk up a mountain (Pen y Fan in Wales), but didn’t know how to go about organising it. But he knew that Rachel did!
A few weeks later Gordon's Walk was created, and now in its 4th year, has raised well over £10,000 for the British Heart Foundation (BHF).
So what is it that has made this event more than just a one off? And is there really something in this thing of giving back that actually helps us more than we’d like to admit?
Tony Robbins states that we rely on others for emotional support in good and bad times. This need for connection is ingrained in us, but also works the other way. This is the essence of giving back: supporting others in the ups and downs of life as much as they support you. The real meaning of life doesn’t come from what you get, but from what you give.
We asked Rachel just why she has carried on with the commitment of organising an annual walk and what it gives back to her?
“I’ll be honest, organising the walk every year is another thing to squeeze into an already busy schedule and it can be a pain. But on the first walk, one of my brother's friends said they didn’t want this to be the last thing they did to remember him! So that kind of made the decision for me and we’ve organised a walk every year since.
We use the walk to raise essential funds for BHF, but we also use it as an opportunity to meet people we don’t often see, chat about Gordon, his life and what he meant to us, and laugh about how he would hate a sponsored walk… a sponsored designer shopping trip or cocktail drinking event would be more his style!
We really didn’t think that people would still want to come along either, but as many people signed up this year as the first year, some who didn’t even know my brother. We also have offshoot walks taking place across the UK, and one in Germany, for those who can’t make the main event! So it’s great to know that we can all get together, raise some funds, feel like we’re making a difference and create something really positive from the loss of such a special person.”
Giving back, even if it’s as simple as making a donation to your favourite charity, can have benefits to mental and physical health as well as enhancing life in ways you might not think of at first.
Research has shown that volunteering increases happiness and decreases depression and other psychological distress. When we volunteer, or give back in some way, the brain releases endorphins (happy chemicals) that make us feel good both short and long term.
Volunteering is also good for physical health and studies have linked it with lowering blood pressure and a reduced mortality risk, and other benefits, especially if it involves some kind of physical activity.
Giving back can expand your network. Surrounding yourself with good people is key to achieving dreams and there’s more chance of meeting new like-minded people if you volunteer. You never know where it can lead to.
Whatever new skills you're giving back helps to develop, it’s a chance to push yourself out of your comfort zone and develop new skills to help you grow.
We’ve all heard the phrase ‘attitude of gratitude’ right? Well helping others in some way can change your perspective on life, or aspects of life. It can help you to count your blessings and realise just how much you have to be grateful for.
Giving back helps to fulfil our deepest human needs. The need for growth, to make a contribution and feel significant, feeling needed, unique and helpful. All of these are important to us on a deep level.
Of course, the above points focus on volunteering, but giving back takes a number of forms and not everyone is in a position to volunteer, especially if they are away from home for long periods and unable to commit time on a regular basis.
But don’t worry, research research suggests that even small, simple acts of giving and kindness can help improve your mental wellbeing by creating positive feelings and a sense of reward, giving you a feeling of purpose and self-worth and helping you connect with other people.
Examples of some things you could try include:
- Make a point of saying thank you to someone for something they did for you.
- Ask a friend, family member or colleague how they are and really listen to their answer.
- Spend some time with friends, colleagues or relatives who need support or company.
- Offer to help someone with a project or something they’re working on.
- Send a positive message to someone, even just to let them know you’re thinking about them. It could be a photo of a shared memory.
- Take a couple of minutes to talk to someone new - the check out staff, your Postie, the person serving your coffee, your hotel cleaner, your taxi driver. It could make their day too!
- Pick up the phone or talk to someone instead of messaging or emailing.
- Go for a walk or a coffee with a friend and find out how they’re doing.
Finally, it’s worth remembering that research has shown that those committing an act of kindness once a week over a 6 week period is associated with an increase in wellbeing and individuals who report a greater interest in helping others are more likely to rate themselves as happy!
So, choose something to do today to give back, and give yourself a boost. We’d love to hear about your ideas too!
P.S. If you’d like a feel good starter for today, please pop over to
https://www.justgiving.com/fundraising/GordonsWalk2022
and give yourself an endorphin boost by supporting the Gordon’s Walk team and the BHF in their quest to raise funds to help beat heartbreak forever.